Warm Happiness – Finding Peace in a Social Network or a Gay Community
Sometimes I'm busy with so many people that I neglect the problems that my family experiences from time to time. I think this proverbial area where the physician's family is ill, the car's car breaks down, and plumbing pipes leak. For a while my son came into the kitchen with an uncomfortable face that only my most depressed client gets. The therapist and not the father kicked me in, and I asked: Are you happy with whom you are my son? From the age of twelve, he probably did not ask the question and thought he was referring to his home rights. In this age of happiness means you have everything you desire for your heart, and your answer has clearly proven your age.
For some reason, some people never reach this age when it comes to happiness. If your level of happiness is related to the degree you have in your desire, you are not even more than twelve. The extent of happiness in the world has not changed over the last 200 years, but most of the things we have been evaluating in our time did not exist at 75% at that time. Think about 100 years ago; there were no computers, microwave ovens, internet, mobile phones, and most of the things we attribute today. Most people do not have cars, houses with electricity, or any basic service we know today, and yet they are so happy – maybe even happier that we are. It's all about what we value in our day does not bring you happiness. The question is, are you happy if these things are not? 19659002 Positive psychology, a fairly new wave of humanities, puts this question and gives some interesting answers. Martin Seligman, a father of positive psychology, finds happiness in pleasant life, good life and meaningful life. In these three, he combines two older and opposite views; the individualistic view on me and the altruistic view that focuses on the community. You can enjoy a pleasant life if you have the needs of friendship, nature, and body. Good life is realized when you discover your unique strengths and use it creatively to improve your life. The third and final form of happiness comes from meaningful life, and when you use your unique abilities, you make your fellow human be happy.
If you use the above in our lives in the gay community, it means that the closet where no one else meets will never reach the final stage of happiness. In fact, you will not even reach the second stage. The cabinet's lifetime, even a cabinet-like warm-up that only works on pick-up spots after midnight, can only serve the needs of the body and thus achieve a pleasant life. A good life where you warm your strengths as a warm person can only happen if you are proud. However, the ultimate form of happiness can only be achieved by using your strengths and abilities as a homosexual person in the service of the hot community and ultimately in the warm / straight community as a whole.
The power of positive psychology lies in the fact that mental health moves toward a happy life. Psychology has always sought to cure psychological disorders; focused on abnormalities. Positive psychology focuses on health and not on disease. It teaches how to get to true happiness and not just being ok. Many gay people insist on struggling for our rights, how to fight against homophobia, how to get rid of the disease. Positive psychology shows that fighting goes beyond authentic warm happiness.
In the short term, struggle for your individual rights, use your energy to find your unique abilities and use them to build a community. I guess we're not here yet and maybe that's one of the reasons why many hot people are depressed and unhappy.